Anthony Ekanem

The Art of Flirting Anthony Ekanem

What do you understand by flirting? And what do you know about it? These questions may look simple since almost every man has, at one time or the other, tried to get it done the proper way, many times. Dressing to impress women, complimenting them, and sending them cheap pickup lines are all techniques created to attract women. But do you know what flirting really entails?To put it simply, flirting refers to a kind of mating ritual, and this is not exclusive to human beings alone. Take animals, for instance. Have you ever wondered if the songs that birds sing have any meaning to them? Do you think it is a mere coincidence that peacock feathers are as colourful and stylish as they are? Do you ever wonder why apes beat their chests the way they do? Well, the answer is simple: they are a part of these animals' mating rituals. Although flirting methods appear to be one-of-a-kind for different species, their goals are not. Human beings use verbal and non-verbal cues to attract potential mates. Men specifically need to take actions to impress their choice of women. Humour, intelligence, wealth, confidence, and social status are some of the things that attract and impress women. Just like the male apes beating their chests, these are some of the signals that we emit to show women how worthy and desirable we can be. That is why flirting is considered a mating ritual. Furthermore, flirting is done involuntarily, just like with the animals. Or do we consider animal mating rituals to be pre-planned? Well, they are not. The truth is that these mating rituals come from nature and are done to maintain the life cycle. Each creature in the world was bred for this particular purpose, including human beings. And, as with animals, men and women do not usually think before they flirt; they flirt unconsciously. They only become aware of their flirting when backfires. A lot of men have experienced a situation where a woman flirted with them but ended up acting annoyed after they flirted back. The woman may have said something like, "Sorry, you are not my type." or "You are a great friend." This can confuse the man as men often misinterpret the friendly signals of women as sexual attraction. They are not.