Nancy Next

Trash Talk Nancy Next

From Trash Talk: You picked up this book because there is someone in your life who talks a lot of trash. It could be a friend, a brother or sister, a parent, an enemy, a frenemy, a celebrity, a politician, or some random person who is on your last nerve. This person flies under the radar. Her little comments, suggestions, and gestures get under your skin. You heard it. You know you heard it. It felt like a jab, a crack, a shot, but you can't put your finger on it. When he talks to you, you feel attacked, shamed, uncomfortable, or a little bit smaller. This book will help you spot the trash talk, and even better, this book will help you understand the trash talker. I hope you picked up this book because you are the trash talker in your life. In the wrong hands this book is a weapon. As you read through the chapters, you will recognize people you know. This is not an invitation to attack, judge, or shame people because of their trash talk. This book isn't ammunition. It's information. Use this information to understand other people. Use this information to understand you. This is a book for people who are ready to look at themselves and get to know themselves. I'm glad you're one of those people. When I was a kid, I (and lots of other people) used to believe "Here is what I am. Take it or leave it." I thought the way I spoke to people was a natural part of who I was, and if people didn't like it, they could buzz off. As I got a little older, I learned that how I talked, especially to others, wasn't always serving me well. There was too much conflict in my life, and that made my life harder. Who needs that? At our core, we're all lovers, not fighters. I was tired of fighting. I realized there had to be a way to be true to myself without causing unnecessary trouble. If I wanted better relationships with people, I knew I would have to change the way I spoke to them. This is NOT the same as changing me or who I am. You don't have to change who you are. If there is too much conflict in your life, all you need to do is change your speech strategy. When I spoke, sometimes people felt attacked, shamed, uncomfortable, or a little bit smaller. Now I want to make people feel empowered, confident, loved, and a little bit bigger. That is what effective people do. I want to be an effective person. I'm sure you do too. Now that you're ready, let's go.