Olajumoke Caxton-Martins

Hugging Embers Olajumoke Caxton-Martins

Every human being is a spirit that lives in a body and has a soul. Each soul is made up of the individual's will and emotions. We all feel strongly. Sometimes, we can handle our feelings. At other times, we can't help it when our feelings, also called emotions, get the best of us. There is always a struggle between whether to follow our heads, the logical part of us, or our hearts, our emotional side. The battle is somewhat easier to win in relation to some issues but when it comes to the connection between a man and a woman, many times, we don't even know when it is the mind or the heart speaking. King Solomon, in the compilation of his proverbs, said that there are four things that he doesn't understand. One of these is the way of a man with a woman. This enigma is one we are still trying to unravel as love is one of the strongest emotions alive. King Solomon was a legend with 300 wives and 700 concubines. It seems he was quite the man to follow his emotions. One cannot refrain from wondering though, what was the deal with the 700 women?It is no wonder that King Solomon had so much to say about questionable relationships. He had been there! However, this is not just King Solomon's story. Many of us get involved with people to such an extent that the relationship lines are blurred. We can't tell who they are to us anymore although we know that what we share is no longer ordinary friendship. Emotional dating has become very familiar terrain for all and sundry. Growing emotional dependence on others are glowing embers that most people have embraced irrespective of their marital status. Another one of King Solomon's proverbs asks "Can a man embrace fire and his clothes not be burned?" This book is a book of many explanations for why you feel the way you do and what you can do to gain control of your emotions and make smart decisions irrespective of how you feel. It is a manual for thinking with your head above the noise your heart makes when it is speaking. It is a guide to knowing how not to hug embers even if you unavoidably come in contact with them. It is a handbook for making yourself and your relationships fireproof.