B Love

Are you the one, or nah? B Love

There's a widespread trend of 'kicking it', 'just talking', 'being friends with benefits' and having 'side chicks' that I'm not really sure if the generation under me will even know what it looks like to truly date someone and have an actual relationship. I will be twenty-six this year and I feel so old school. What happened to the days of being friends before you dated someone? What happened to the days of having to ask your parents if you could date; and then having to get permission from the parents of the person that you wanted to date? Do people still talk? I mean... actually talk? Do people have those deep and meaningful conversations where they not only get to know the facts about a person, but they also take the time to get to know a person's fears, desires, and goals? Have we become so fearful of loving and losing, or being alone, or being unwanted that we've begun to settle for situationships in which we give men and women husband and wife privileges when they aren't even our boyfriends and girlfriends? Why has commitment become uncool? How are we having relationships with people that we aren't relating to? We aren't connecting. We aren't taking the time to get to know people and understand them. We're simply, meeting someone, talking to them, becoming attached with feelings, having sex... learning that person as we go along, realizing we don't really like them, or want to be with them anymore, and then we end the relationship; thinking it's something wrong with that person, when it's really a matter of a lack of true relation. True connection. Okay, let me not put you in the same boat as me. Maybe you aren't doing any of those things. Maybe you just want a list of questions to better help you get to know a person that you are interested in. Or, maybe you want this list so that when you meet someone in the future you will be prepared. Whatever the case, I'm glad you decided to check this book out; and I hope that it helps you!