Judy Helm Wright

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The loss of a beloved pet may be the first death experience children face. It is very traumatic for the child and should not be trivialized. Their feelins and emotions are very real and they are trying to process the situation as best they can. They need the support and understanding of caring adults to work through what has happened and what it means to them personally. Pet loss and the surrounding activity can be a catalyst for growth and understanding for the entire family. Talking and sharing thoughts and emotions is one of the best ways to cope. That is why people gather after a funeral to share stories and acknowledge the part the deceased has had in their lives. It is a teaching moment to share openly about what is going on in our hearts, minds and bodies. Recognize that not all adults or children grive in the same way. Do not expect the child to be openly sad or to be appearing uncaring in their attitude about the death of the pet. It may take some time to process what this loss means to them. No matter how the child may appear to be taking the news, do have a priod of time just for them to talk and you to listen. After sharing their fears and concerns, you will wantto reassure them that they are safe and loved. This may be the opportunity to teach the values and beliefs that you may not have shared with your family. A great many of the people who deal with depression or feelings of suicide as adults suffer from some sort of sorrow they never had the opportunity to work out as a child. Judy Helm Wright has a new book coming out to assist you in this process. Watch for "How To Explain Death, Loss & Grieve to Children" You will find it on Amazon very soon or by checking out our website at www. ArtichokePress.com