Y. Aaron Kaweblum M.d. F

Crystoppers: a Play by Play Guide Book for Wise Parenting Y. Aaron Kaweblum M.d. F

As a pediatrician since 1983, I have noticed that over the last two decades, parents have forgotten what it means to make the right decisions for the well being of their children. Modern parents think that if the child cries, they must immediately do something to stop the cry, even if doing so leads to harmful consequences. Because of that, we have a society full with children that are disrespectful, misbehaved, obese, and socially not able to adapt. My book is called the "crystoppers", ( i..e. parents that concentrate on "making sure" that their child does not cry) or a practical guide for wise parenting. There are "Three Spheres" of parental control that apply to all ages: Sphere 1.- Sleep: from birth to high school parents have the duty to teach and enforce in their children appropriate sleeping skills in order for them to rest and have the energy to succeed on their daily activities. Sphere 2.- Behavioral/ social. Since the first few weeks of life and into adulthood your child will try to obtain from you different things in all aspects of life (sleep, concessions related to games, toys and activities, and in particular food items). The majority of these requests are obviously not in the child's best interest. To succeed, they utilize many resources; from whining, temper tantrums, aggressive behavior, to hugs and kisses, to blackmail or making the parents feel guilty. Giving into them causes serious social and health related problems. Aggressiveness leads to injuries, bulling, and even expulsion from school. Later on in life could lead to criminal behavior and trouble with the law. Sphere 3.- nutritional: catering to picky eating habits lead to an array of health issues. Childhood obesity, teenage diabetes, short stature, weakness, inability to do well in school. In the long term it increases the chances of the young adult to develop heart disease, cancer, stroke etc. If you follow the recommendations found in thi