J Bellows

Happiness in the Family: Using Choice Theory to Eliminate Hostility in the Family J Bellows

Choice Theory defines all behavior as being total behavior and states that it is designated by verbs, usually infinitives and gerunds, and named by the component that is most recognizable. Therefore, happiness is the choice of being happy and angering is the choice of acting out in anger. Within the family these take many forms from the highs of happiness to the lows of rage and aggression between family members-father and mother, parent and child, or between siblings. In Happiness in the Family, author, J. Thomas Bellows, Ph. D., discusses the various forms of angering that are found within the family and alternate ways to cope with and reduce the angering to bring about calmness and happiness for the members of the family. Frustrations are a result of differences between the world as we perceive it and the world as we would like it. This discussion on angering includes an expanded writing on the subject of Choice Theory that can bring true happiness within the family. Additional information given relates to dealing with parenting, stress, and angering and its management to bring about a state of calm in the family that was never thought possible. Much of the anxiety and frustration in the family is brought about by events in the community and the family's interaction within the community. Suggestions as to proposed actions by individuals in the public, community as a whole, state, and nation to angering and aggression are given.